tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post5854881285545262054..comments2023-10-01T07:50:30.374-05:00Comments on It only hurts when I breathe!: These things happen...Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-38828573538249358582009-09-22T23:41:32.214-05:002009-09-22T23:41:32.214-05:00for the record....i know a dbm who still cries aft...for the record....i know a dbm who still cries after 35 YEARS.....i think you are pretty normal....or at least i am crazy with you LOL!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17845215924740186405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-68604641844314812712009-09-17T09:03:12.838-05:002009-09-17T09:03:12.838-05:00Honey, it is normal to be sad. It hasnt been &quo...Honey, it is normal to be sad. It hasnt been "too long" and you dont need to stop crying. Hell, it's been 19 months since we lost our first twins and I still cry for them daily. DAILY. And it doesnt mean I'm depressed, only that I'm grieving. It's okay that you are still grieving. Have you thought of seeing a doctor who specializes in loss or at experience with loss? That can make a huge difference.<br /><br />Sending big hugs...Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-1344738728243218522009-09-13T21:52:01.276-05:002009-09-13T21:52:01.276-05:00I am there with you. I don't want to go anywhe...I am there with you. I don't want to go anywhere unless I have to. I don't want to be around anyone unless they have been there for us. <br /><br />Is there anyway you can request to never see that NP again?Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-76683258430844534442009-09-11T16:31:38.197-05:002009-09-11T16:31:38.197-05:00hell, i want to punch that doctor for you. how ins...hell, i want to punch that doctor for you. how insensitive can one person be?<br /><br />sending you love, heather. and, as always, kisses to logan in heaven.<br /><br />xoxoAunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-40240220326947726212009-09-10T20:08:51.325-05:002009-09-10T20:08:51.325-05:00Heather it's been ten months today since my so...Heather it's been ten months today since my son and daughter were born, in six days it will be ten months since he died. I'm still crying lots and I expect to cry lots more. I went through that huddle down with the family after Calvin's funeral, neither my husband or myself left the house for almost two months. While I felt safe holed up in my bedroom, it wasn't healthy for either us or our daughters. People simply don't get it. Until they lose a child, the most precious thing in the world, they will never get it. Only now am I starting to accept that and it dissapates some of the anger I have towards the nonbabylost community. It won't ever be better, but the pain will soften. I promise you that. Hugging you.margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-40716953643849675762009-09-10T19:51:32.965-05:002009-09-10T19:51:32.965-05:00I just read the book "Living on the Seabed&qu...I just read the book "Living on the Seabed" by Lindsay NIcholson. She writes about grief very well, she says don't expect to be finished this hard horrible grieving for 4 years. You are doing well. Bitter and Angry are part of it. The second six months is the hardest, because people who haven't got a clue expect that you have grieved on their timeline, and they are mostly over it by now. Are you reading anything interesting at the moment?Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04785702517380779595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-47588723692449537882009-09-10T15:45:12.409-05:002009-09-10T15:45:12.409-05:00((Hugs)) ((Hugs)) and ((more hugs))
I am 4 years ...((Hugs)) ((Hugs)) and ((more hugs))<br /><br />I am 4 years into my loss, and let me say that there will always be moments where you cry. You will NEVER get "Over" it.. this loss... your son... You will ALWAYS remember him....and that is perfectly NORMAL.<br /><br />I'm sorry you're having what is already a difficult time made worse by insensitive people who SHOULD care.Terhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08427090425449970893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-37685533364567200152009-09-10T15:22:14.843-05:002009-09-10T15:22:14.843-05:00First, let me give you a giant e-HUG. I can't...First, let me give you a giant e-HUG. I can't even imagine how hard it was to get through that doctor visit. I'm proud of you. After all, you didn't haul off and knock a few of the NP's teeth out, did you? You're a far better person than I...<br /><br />People say "these things happen" because they don't know what else to say. They truly don't realize that keeping their mouths closed is a viable (even preferred) option. I love when ppl say to me, "I don't know what to say." Because then I get to tell them to close their mouths and open their arms. <br /><br />I'm in the same place you are, sister. Close the blinds and let me hide in the dark. Or let me out in public, as long as I don't have to perform for anyone. Let me be anonymous. I get it, Heather. You're getting through this as best you can. BUT, if *you* feel as though it's interfering with your life, antidepressants can be a wonderful thing. I'm on Celexa, a low dose. I'm not happy all the time. My highs got lower and my lows don't dig so far down. Zoloft is pretty heavy duty for someone who hasn't been on antidepressants before. If you feel like you should explore that option, go see a doctor. A real MD. <br /><br />Always praying for you, Heather. And loving you. :)Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02100182709422069894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488516630362661582.post-64631014909825008862009-09-10T15:03:34.140-05:002009-09-10T15:03:34.140-05:00((Hugs)). I'm sorry. Wishing there was somethi...((Hugs)). I'm sorry. Wishing there was something I could do. xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com