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Ugh. So, I called the funeral home today. David and I decided (or at least I think we decided) to buy an Alpaca Fur Teddy Bear from the local Alpaca farm and place a heart shaped urn inside of it. The bears are made using the fur from stillborn Alpacas. We found out about it last spring and ever since its been a thought for Logan's ashes. So, I went out online to find a heart shaped urn today. Which was full of sunshine and rainbows! ARGH!!! This sucks!! Even 16+ months later!! It makes me feel all jittery and like I'm gonna puke! Anyhow... The website specified that it would hold up to 4 cubic inches of cremains. Sigh. Seriously? So they want me to measure it?? No. That's how I ended up on the phone with the funeral home. I made an appointment for Thursday morning. I'm taking the ashes in for them to look at, and a print out of the urn. They'll be able to know. Plus, they'll put his ashes in the urn for me...for free. Which is nice. He thought they might even have a heart shaped urn. Anyhow. So. Fun stuff. Now I'll try to remain calm until Thursday. As if. David wants to go along with me to pick out the bear. I thought that was nice. I just haven't been sure how much is me pushing him to be a part, and how much he really wants to be a part of. But he did tell me that he wants to go pick out the bear. So, maybe we'll do that Thursday evening. When we recently opened this can of worms back up I had wanted to have this done before Mother's Day. But that's this weekend. And now I'm not so sure how much of that I want to try to cope with ON Mother's Day, since I have a living daughter who I'm supposed to celebrate with and try to put aside the ugliness. Anyhow, his due date, or what should have been his first birthday is May 19th. So, I think I'll have it done before then. One more chapter to close. Hopefully it will give us some added closure or something. I can't believe its take us so long to deal with this. I just couldn't ever bring my self to purposefully tear the scab off. But that's all this process really is anyhow. Picking at scabs. As soon as it starts to heal over, it gets ripped off again!
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Oh, Heather. I hope the funeral home has what you're looking for. If it helps, Leila's ashes amounted to something like 2-3 tbsp. I get some weird, sick joy out of shaking her urn - it's like hearing the almost musical rattle has become her voice (I know, I know. but it's all I got.) The idea of the alpaca bear is genius - who knew that kind of option was out there? Do you have a link for it on TDBC?
Praying for some healing balm for your poor scabs. ((hugs)) and much love!
Sending loving hugs...
Heather, I hope you are able to find the heart. It sounds like a perfect urn.
Thinking of you, Heather, and remembering your Logan with you. His due date was the day our George was born still. I hope you found your heart-shaped urn. They had some pewter ones here but they were too small for larger babies. We have finally found something for George's ashes; we found a local potter who is going to make a little urn with the colours we wanted and the name and date etched in. Sending you love and hoping it all gets sorted for you.
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